Sometimes we find ourselves in the situation of having to decide to change our children’s school, either because the educational institution has not met our expectations, or because we must move, or because of economic problems, among other situations.

But what happens when this change is neither expected nor accepted by our children? Mary Castro, psychologist of our clinic, gives us some recommendations to accompany our children in a correct and effective way during this process of changes for which they must be prepared.

What feelings may be recurring in a child when his/her parents tell him/her that he/she will be changed to a different school?

Feelings that may appear are fear, anger, worry; they may also experience enthusiasm, curiosity, among others.

Everything will depend on the characteristics of the child because there are children who are excited to meet new people and places, but not others; and that will also depend on how parents communicate the change of school and how the child perceives it.

Five recommendations to help our children.

1. Gather all the necessary information about the school. This way we will be more convinced that it is the right place for them and the chances of a new change of school will be lower.
2. Be prepared to answer the child’s questions regarding the activities or benefits that the new school may offer. In this way, we will solve all the doubts that our children may have.
3. Know how to listen to and understand the child’s emotions, especially if they feel fearful or annoyed by the change. Our assertive accompaniment in the adaptation process will be important and decisive for them.
4. Show tranquility, security, and enthusiasm for the new stage to start, mentioning the opportunities that may arise in the new school and that we will accompany him/her in the process, that he/she can trust us.
5. Carry out the activities to which our children are accustomed, so that they do not feel that everything around them will change and increase their insecurity or annoyance.

Remember:

Every change requires a process of adaptation, respecting that each child has their own way of feeling, expressing themselves and their own time. As parents, it is up to us to be empathetic and understanding with them and give them all the support and love they deserve.

Mary Castro
Psychologist at Clínica Ricardo Palma