No one likes to have their heart broken. Times have changed a lot and so has the way we relate to each other. Antonella Galli, psychologist at our clinic, explains what liquid relationships are and how this trend is becoming more and more frequent among young people and teenagers, who do not want commitments and responsibilities to tie them down.

What are liquid relationships and why are they becoming so common?

• Fragility of bonds: Today, developing permanent relationships has become more difficult, and bonds are extremely fragile. The new generations prefer to go through the world freely, without having to explain themselves to a partner. In this way, they avoid disappointments, emotional dependencies and focus solely on pleasurable, albeit fleeting, experiences.
• A culture of immediacy: Young people have grown up in a world where immediacy is the norm. They are aware that life can change at any moment and that there is an infinite number of ways to relate without giving 100% affectionately. This allows them to avoid the mourning of the breakup by losing the connection with someone they love, resulting in a more practical and functional option.

Liquid relationships are not inherently good or bad. If both parties agree to seek only fun and enjoyment without any kind of commitment, they can work smoothly. However, if one person wants something more formal, the relationship can become toxic. Therefore, it is essential to speak honestly and openly from the beginning.

Why can liquid relationships be harmful?

• Lack of solid foundations: In a liquid relationship there is no firm basis of trust and support to form a medium- or long-term couple project. These relationships are characterized by breaking up at any excuse or pretext. There are no obligations to give explanations, to frequent each other, to call each other or to meet friends or family. The objective is only satisfaction and pleasure.
• Emotional disengagement: Basically, it’s two people who bond when they feel like it and then disconnect. This type of relationship has become fashionable among young people who lack emotional maturity and prefer not to make the effort to build a strong, solid bond with someone they are attracted to.

Remember:

Although these relationships may seem attractive because of their lack of commitment, it is crucial to think carefully before getting involved in such a relationship. Without clear communication and aligned expectations, liquid relationships can cause long-term emotional damage.

Antonella Galli
Psychologist at Clínica Ricardo Palma