Emotional dependency is a psychological state that occurs in people who cling to others in an exaggerated way, seeking stability. Dependent people fear loneliness, are not sure of making decisions, are afraid of making mistakes, and do not have the approval of others. Carmen Bravo de Rueda, a psychologist at our clinic, gives us some advice to overcome this state.

Causes that generate emotional dependence

People can generate emotional dependence towards others, whether they are family members, friends, or partners, for different reasons, among which the following stand out:

• Low self-esteem
• Low self-confidence, usually learned during childhood in the relationship with parents.
• Complexes
• Anxiety
• Jealousy
• Fear of loneliness
• Tendency to toxic relationships

Tips for overcoming emotional dependence

• Honestly acknowledge that you have a problem.
• Work on and reinforce your self-esteem. It is important to love yourself and learn to value yourself.
• It is essential to overcome your insecurity and be confident in your decisions.
• Don’t be afraid to express your own opinion
• Doing things to please others is not right; do them for you.
• Don’t feel responsible for the frustration of others.
• You can’t please everyone, so don’t be afraid or feel bad about not pleasing everyone.

Remember:

It is important to seek professional help to successfully overcome this dependence. The help of a specialist will help you to do it in the best way.

Carmen Bravo de Rueda
Psychologist at our Clínica Ricardo Palma