A few days ago we witnessed another terrible femicide. A young woman was found dead in a cylinder with cement in Villa El Salvador. Her family members confessed that the young woman was studying nursing because her boyfriend (suspect of the homicide) wanted her to do that

For the expert psychologist in couples and family, Carmen Bravo de Rueda, this is a clear example of subtle violence, which often begins in the first months of the relationship, but women do not notice it because they confuse it with concern and love. The specialist adds that these are controlling behaviors that some men use to keep other people’s lives under their control. To find out if your boyfriend is controlling, check out these signs:

• They are a sign of uncertainty. Uncertainty is shown under the questions: where have you been? where are you going? and why did you take so long?
• They always drop you off and pick you up from wherever you go, they don’t let you be by your own and that is why they feel they must be with you at all times.
• Any problem they have at work or in their family, they will always blame you and they take it out on you.

Lic. Carmen Bravo de Rueda
Psychologist at Clínica Ricardo Palma